My days are rather uneventful though maybe fraught with petty annoyances... Hardly worth blogging about but I might as well show my true colors!
Tetsu and I bumped heads this past week over the Homeowners' Association here in our neighborhood. The original disagreement began YEARS ago coming to a predictable road for an argument nearly two years ago and now coming to its resulting major argument now...
I dislike our Homeowners' Association because of all the back biting, all the duties that seem a waste of time to me, and Tetsu has always known how I feel about its hullabaloo. When we moved to the neighborhood nearly 30 years ago the first thing a homeowner did was join the association. I thought it was required by law but it turns out not to be so... Joining the association means we pay quarterly dues, we are supposed to attend annual meetings, we take our turns as block leader for the homes on our block, we participate in trash area cleaning, quarterly full neighborhood cleaning and yearly community center clean-up, sports day, festival preparations, and we are asked to take on board member duties.
In return? Hmmm... Some of the board members get paid a small yearly fee... Every month a ream of papers and pamphlets get delivered from the city letting us know of concerts or lectures or classes offered in the city. Notices are passed along by block leaders through a neighborhood chain about funerals, new neighbors, clean-up days, sports days and community clean-up.
For years and years I attended all the meetings that were held and Tetsu stayed far out of it all. It was rather devious on our part as anyone could see that the Watanabe family's wife, the FOREIGNER, wouldn't be able to take on important duties that required writing or reading or speaking in public and that kept Tetsu from having to take on board meeting duties. The strategy didn't keep me from two years being the neighborhood's safety officer (I was already volunteering at the crosswalk). And when we have been block leader (five times in 30 years?) I would collect the dues, get all the pamphlets to the right homes, go to the monthly meetings and pass along the important notices.
In the meantime... the homeowner's association has slowly been shrinking. New families moving into the neighborhood opt out of joining, (hey! I didn't know that was an option!) They don't care whether they get notices or pamphlets but guess what... Neither do I! They don't want to pay dues that only embroil them in the neighborhood politics... Neither do I! They don't want to clean up or pass along or participate in sports days or in any of the other neighborly things that the Homeowners' Association promotes. Well... I guess I don't mind clean-up days but I could definitely do without the sports days and festival preparations etc... Another contributing factor to the shrinking Homeowner's association is that the neighborhood population is growing older and now many people are in their 60s and 70s, the most often given reason for leaving the association is having to live on social security thus being unable to pay dues and the physical inability to participate in neighborhood activities.
When I weigh the advantages to being in the association against the disadvantages, I'm sorry, but there don't seem to be that many advantages! As those who leave the association say, it's not like non-members can't use the garbage service or the water system or the roads etc... It's not like if there is a major disaster and we all have to evacuate to somewhere that the community center is going to say,
"Oh, sorry, you are not a member of the local Homeowner's Association and thus aren't eligible for medical and relief care."
So I've been suggesting for years that we too remove ourselves from the Homeowner's Association but Tetsu feels that staying in it sends that message that we are supportive of our community and our neighbors...
Two years ago he was approached, MANY TIMES about taking on the simple Association's duty of checking the accounting at the end of the year.
"SIMPLE job! ONE TIME thing! As a board member you'd be asked to attend monthly meetings but we UNDERSTAND that you are a busy man and won't be able to come regularly. YOU'RE a WORKING man!"
"Tetsu, don't do it. Once they get you in their grasp, you are never going to escape. Don't give in!"
But after like the fourth visit by two of the members to our house asking Tetsu to reconsider... guess what.... He took on the SIMPLE job of looking over the accounting. That was two years ago and if nothing else, Tetsu is conscientious and even attended monthly meetings as much as possible (and also we were the block leader this year so one of us would have had to attend those meetings anyway... Kill two birds with one stone.)
Hah!!! Now two years into this the board is approaching, INSISTING, that Tetsu becomes the HEAD OF THE HOMEOWNER'S ASSOCIATION for the next two years!!!!! The same Homeowner's Association that his wife hates!!!!! There have been MONTHS of meetings and individual visits from the members asking Tetsu to take on the responsibility!
"Oh, there's no one else that can do it. You OWE it to the neighborhood after living here all these years. You're retired now. You have no excuse not to extend yourself for the neighborhood."
Oh yes he does. His wife isn't talking to him!!!
Unfortunately for me, or fortunately for the Homeowner's Association, Tetsu has resigned himself to accepting the position of Head. He has explained that he respects my opinion but he is tired of all the members coming at him from all sides telling him he has to do it. It is true, he is retired and has the time and still the ability to get involved. He is not happy about the marital argument that has ensued between us and wishes I would back him up on this and make the next two years of his Homeowners' Association Head position easier.
"Please be supportive!"
Right now I am just getting around to talking to him again...