Friday, July 10, 2009

Back in Japan

"Ohayougozaimasu!" Good morning from Japan!

5:43 AM and I have just come back from a 40 minute walk with Choco. That tells you that I am suffering from jet lag!

The trip back to Japan was fairly uneventful. A lot of turbulence and people hanging over bags but no other inconveniences. (Oh, I had to pay $50 for overweight baggage. No surprise.)

Going to and through the airport I am reminded of departures past...

One year when Takumi was little (and still unable to read English) he thought it would be interesting to see what was on the other side of the door that had a sign on it. A sign that said "Restricted Area". What a lot of excitement with alarms blaring and people running to intercept us. I remember considering walking away from my son and denying all connection with him and felt very guilty because of my lack of protective mothering instincts. Walking through the airport yesterday and seeing the signs posted brought back those memories.

Then there was one year when we were taking Tetsu to LAX and right as we got off the freeway and onto the airport exit lane a truck jack-knifed and blocked up three lanes of highway. What a scene from a movie that was! Not that anyone got hurt, just that for a mile or more, hundreds and hundreds of cars were stuck behind the truck, all of us trying to catch airplanes! Along with everyone else, Tetsu and Takumi and I finally left Marcy and the car and pulled and carried Tetsu's luggage another couple of miles to the airport terminal! People were carrying pillows and luggage and stuffed animals and we were all walking in the middle of the empty freeway much like a scene from an end of the world movie! Made it on time to catch the plane though.

(Tetsu was so annoyed with me taking these pictures.

"How can you be taking pictures when I might be missing my airplane!"

But it was a once in a lifetime thing and I get to show my pictures to you today!)

Back in Japan. It is warm and humid. California mornings and nights are much more agreeable at this time of year but the scenery here is lush and beautiful. The cats are very friendly and seem to be happy that I am home. Choco is thrilled to be getting a walk again in the morning. (Tetsu abandoned that commitment after he threw his knee out.)

On today's schedule is unpacking and washing floors and surfaces to get rid of some of the mold and mildew. And cooking. And picture arranging. And letting people know that I am back and ready to take up where I left off a month ago. And getting back to answering g-mail. I hope I'll be back and running normally in a day or two!



Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Summer's end

Off and away I go to Japan today. And Leiya went back to Ohio yesterday.

This was sort of a different summer starting with the sudden decision to come to the States early and then the uncertainties about where the hospital stays were going to lead. I didn't see as many people as I usually do. I didn't do as much shopping... well, minus Jo Ann's. That store made a profit off of me this year.

I have a sense of accomplishment from all the cleaning I did, which by the way, may lead to problems for Marcy later. Yesterday Mother leaning on her walker, stood in front of her very neat and polished desk and said

"Something's different about this desk... I thought there were other things here..."

Yeah! About three inches thickness of papers and dust and THINGS are missing now! So I admitted to cleaning it off (along with the cupboards and drawers and closet and cabinets and bookshelves and bedside tables and under the bed and over the refrigerator, etc. etc.! But she hasn't noticed any of that yet...) And I directed her to where some of her favorite things had been repositioned... But she probably won't remember.

It is sort of sad... The way my mother does remember when she remembers has changed which is all the more confusing. Yet I know my cleaning has made things safer for her, cheerier for her, and in the long run easier for Marcy and family and even for me. And it was a job that only I could do. The sorting of important. The deciding what holds history for our family and what were trinkets from the 5 and 10...

Over the month I could see my mother's health improve! That was a great blessing! This past week she ventures out of her bed more and forages into the refrigerator looking for things to nibble. For awhile we were insisting she get out of bed for 10 minutes every day and she balked at that. For awhile I assisted her on every bathroom trip. For awhile she would eat only a tablespoon at a time. These days she wanders around her rooms and we have to remind her to use the walker.

But I know my mother with go into a slump again in a day or two. She almost always does when I return to Japan. Marcy reports that even when she is in the best of health Mother will retire to her bedroom and be lethargic and unresponsive to the people around her for a week. And then she'll forget that I just was there and start asking when I'm coming again.

But I have a husband in Japan looking forward to coming home at nights to a lighted house, some cooking and a bit of company expressed in terms other than meows and woofs. And my furry family will be very happy to have my attentions again. And I need to get back to work to help support my kids' education. Marcy and Keion will have to make the decisions from here about what is best for THEIR family and for Grandma. I hoped my being here helped out people a little bit...

Okay. My bags are packed to overflowing! (Why? I didn't do THAT much shopping!) and for the next few hours I'm going to be struggling with them like I do on every return to Japan. The same shuffling of stuff from one suitcase to another in an attempt to make everything lighter! Why won't I ever learn!!!

Next stop. Japan!

Monday, July 6, 2009

From Rags to Riches


Among all of my Mom's papers I found this story that I wrote for her years ago. Some 20 years ago my mother had some neighbors with a lovely dog. I heard all about this dog from my mother, wrote up the story and she typed it up. Of course I showed the story to the neighbors and they concurred that it is a true story. I guess I'll change the neighbor's names but I swear the rest of it is what I heard…


I'd like to tell you a story of a dog named Delilah. Actually, I never knew Delilah all that well, but my mother was her neighbor and she keeps asking me to "write up Delilah's story" – which gives you an idea of what a devoted fan Delilah had…

One morning Mr. Moore and his two boys made their way to the local animal shelter (otherwise known as "Dog Pound") to see if they could find a nice dog to become part of their family. The pound people really weren't too sure of Delilah's history, but supposedly the dog was nearly nine months old and had belonged to a young couple who had had to move. They left the pup at the shelter with fingers crossed that she would find a good home before her time ran out. God must have been smiling down on Delilah that day, because she was promptly adopted by the Moores and brought to her new Southern California home.

It was easy to see why Delilah would catch the Moores' eye. She was a friendly and beautiful Golden Retriever puppy with silky, golden fur. They named her Delilah, and the name certainly fit her. One wonders what her former owners might have called her. She didn't look like a "Happy" or a "Lovey". She looked like a "Delilah" with just a touch of regalness in her tresses, and thus the Moore children christened her.

Right away, I'm sure; Delilah could see that she was starting on a bright new future. The Moores' home was settled back away from the street and hidden by trees and hills. Actually, the whole neighborhood was hidden away, and there were five or six houses that lay beneath the trees and were connected by steep paths and rolling driveways. My mother's house was to the right of the Moores', and to get there the Moore children would climb a short wall, go past horse corrals, and over deeply pine-needled paths.

Next to my mother's home lived Dr. and Mrs. Johnson and behind them were two or three other homes. Mr. and Mrs. Moore would often take Delilah on strolls around the neighborhood, or Delilah would just meander by herself. Most of the neighborhood dogs were left free to go where they will, and I suppose Delilah enjoyed visiting my mother. That was how they became friends.

The whole neighborhood was like one large family, and often the neighbors would gather at one house or another for home concerts, swim parties, or an Easter brunch. Delilah had surely been adopted into a loving extended family, and all welcomed her with open arms.

Delilah's immediate family consisted of Mr. Moore, a tall man with a very distinguished beard and a wonderful British accent; Mrs. Moore, a pretty and charming woman who devoted her energies to church and family; and the Moore children. The two boys had large, bright eyes, curly hair and dimples. Perfect storybook children everyone said. There was also a cat that sort of ruled the Moores' side of the neighborhood, and it was with this family that Delilah lived and enjoyed herself.

I never heard anyone speak poorly of Delilah. For the first few months she did have the bad habit of chewing up shoes or legs of furniture. But really, she was only a puppy and puppies do tend to do those things. I think as the months wore on, she outgrew that habit and life settled into peacefulness.

Now I must introduce a couple of other people into my story. They will become most important to Delilah in the future, as you shall see. They are Sir Oliver and Mrs. Moore. Sir Oliver and Mrs. Moore were Mr. Moore's parents and they lived in England. You notice that title, "Sir". Sir Oliver had been knighted by Queen Elizabeth. (Actually, I think he'd been knighted more than once. But I guess they don't title them "Sir, Sir".)

He and Mrs. Moore lived on an estate outside of London. I don't know what a British estate is, but for me it certainly conjures up images of cobblestone walks, ivy-covered mansions and rolling lawns. For all that, when I first met them, Sir Oliver had on what appeared to be an old fishing hat, and Mrs. Moore was wearing a huge straw hat and was holding a turkey sandwich. Not my idea of nobility, but I can't say I was disappointed. Actually, I was surprised at how warm and friendly such classy people could be.

One summer the Moore family decided to spend a couple of weeks in England with the grandparents, and my mother was approached about feeding Delilah and the cat while they were gone. Well, my mother was more than pleased to do so. While the cat was the type of cat that could take people or leave them, Delilah was definitely a people dog and Mother was fearful as to whether or not she might become lonely while her family was away.

The easiest solution to that problem was to have Delilah stay at Mother's house, and so it was arranged. The Moores flew off to England and Delilah moved into my mother's house for two weeks. It was a delightful arrangement for both of them. They had each other's company and Delilah got loved and cuddled while my mother's feet got warmed at night with Delilah sleeping beside her.

All was well, and Mother – being a very conscientious neighbor – one day decided that she must write to the Moores and let them know that Delilah was healthy and happy. Delilah was napping in the living room and Mother was typing her letter in the kitchen (she always types). She wrote how she and Delilah fed the donkey together every day, and told the Moores to enjoy themselves and not to worry. I suppose she decided to go and get a few personal comments from Delilah herself before closing the letter. So Mother wandered into the living room to where she'd left Delilah sleeping a few minutes before. Horror of horrors! Delilah was scrabbling around on the carpet, her eyes rolled up into her head, and choking!!

"Delilah! What's wrong?!" Mother cried out, flinging the letter aside. Delilah responded by heaving once more and then limply falling to one side. Delilah was dead! Mother was panic-stricken! How could this happen? How could Delilah be sleeping peacefully and then suddenly die like that? What was she going to tell the Moores?

"…P.S. You dog just died on me…"

Half sobbing and panicky, Mother raced out the front door and ran all the way to the Johnson's where she pounded on the door and collapsed in their back pantry.

"Delilah's died and I don't know how it could have happened, and what am I going to do?"

Dr. Johnson, like most doctors who don't get too upset about things, said,

"Well, I don't know… Do you want me to come and see?"

"Oh yes, please!"

So Dr. Johnson and Mother climbed the hill back to Mother's house, Mother clutching and unclutching her hands and saying over and over, "What am I going to tell the Moores?" and "Poor Delilah!"

At the walkway she stopped and said, "I'm not going back in there. Poor Delilah is in the living room."

So Dr. Johnson headed into the house alone, with Mother standing in the driveway wringing her hands. Pretty soon he was back.

"Well, where is she?"

"She's right there! Right in the living room!" said Mother, a bit exasperated.

"Well, I don't know. I don't see her there now."

Mother came stomping into the house. "Well, she's there. She died right in the middle of the floor!"

But Dr. Johnson was right. No sign of Delilah.

"But she was here. She was jerking and then fell over right here!" said Mother, while Dr. Johnson eyed her strangely.

Who should stroll into the room but Delilah!

"Delilah!" shouted Mother as if she'd witnessed a miracle! "You're alive!"

"Well, I guess she's O.K." said Dr. Johnson. Mother was just all too happy that Delilah had been resurrected to wonder how such a thing could be.

Later it was determined that Delilah was epileptic and Mother had just witnessed one of her fits. Delilah seemed quite normal afterwards. The Moores, too, when they heard of all the excitement, felt it was a minor matter. They only regretted that it had nearly resulted in heart failure for my mother.


Life went on and Delilah grew more and more beautiful, and more and more stately. It was decided that she should be bred, and not long after, eight puppies appeared in the backyard, all miniature replicas of Delilah. The backyard was sectioned off by a short white fence so that the puppies wouldn't escape, and Delilah ruled her brood with a proud but gentle air.

All the neighbors came to greet the new arrivals and the puppies welcomed the visitors by crowding around the fence and pushing their noses out between the slats. It was a sight that cheered everyone. Mother, of course, was over at the Moores's snapping pictures of the new family and sending the pictures off to friends and to me, just like a proud grandmother.

Even so, when the Moores approached Mother about taking a puppy, Mother refused, saying she just couldn't handle a frisky puppy anymore. About the same time, Sir Oliver and his wife came for a visit and they, too, were enchanted by Delilah and her pups. Mrs. Moore suggested to Mother-in-law Moore that they might want a puppy to take back to their estate. But as much as the grandparents loved the dogs, they too felt a puppy was not for them. They entertained too many guests, and a bouncing puppy just would not do.

Besides, what if the dears had inherited Delilah's former habit of chewing things? There was all that antique furniture at the estate, not to mention oriental carpets that wouldn't take to an un-housebroken puppy. No, a puppy wouldn't do…

But Delilah? They very much loved Delilah and she already had stateliness and calm. Yes, it was Delilah that Sir Oliver and Mrs. Moore wanted, if the grandchildren could be parted from her. So not long after the last puppy found its new home, (one in the neighborhood), Delilah was flown off to England to begin a new chapter of her life in elegance and grace.

She was allowed to ride in luxury in a black limousine (a pastime she adored), and at night she was given the honored place on the bed between Sir Oliver and his wife. It was about then that Mother and the neighbors would comment, "What a life for a dog that came out of a California dog pound!"


Not long afterwards, Sir Oliver and his wife were appointed as the British Ambassador and Ambassadress to the U.S.A., and of course Delilah accompanied them to Washington, D.C. I'm sure she was very impressive to foreign guests who were entertained at the Ambassador's mansion. A massive golden dog seated gracefully at the Ambassador's side or comfortably reclining at the feet of the Ambassadress at tea-time. A perfect companion.

Most of the time, Delilah played her role well. Her only deviation would be when a limousine would pull up at the front steps of the embassy to escort an honored guest home. The moment the chauffeur would open the rear door, Delilah would bound down the steps and throw herself into the car. The chauffeurs around D.C. became very adept at hauling Delilah out of the car and picking dog fur off the upholstery (and themselves) before the distinguished guest entered.

There was one afternoon when the Ambassador and Ambassadress were entertaining Prince Charles and Princess Diana. When it came time for their Highnesses to leave, Delilah flew out the door, straight into the waiting limousine. Maybe the chauffeur was new on the job, or maybe he was just slow. But at any rate, when the Prince and Princess were ready to enter the awaiting vehicle, there was Delilah smiling up at them from the back seat.

The Ambassador, of course, was very embarrassed and had to explain that Delilah loved going for rides. Prince Charles and Princess Diana were very nice about it and offered to scrunch over in the seat to make room for Delilah. But since they were on their way to tea with President Reagan at the White House, and since it would mean that Delilah would have to be chauffeured home alone later, the offer was declined… and the Ambassador himself hauled Delilah out of the car.

When my mother heard this story, she was delighted. For weeks she told everyone she met about how Delilah was mixing with royalty.


There was one other time when Delilah got to fraternize with the royal family. I think this time she was visiting at the White House. At any rate, there were many people around and Delilah was getting her share of attention. Prince Charles and Princess Diana were there again. Since they were already acquainted with Delilah, they had spent a few moments speaking with her. Delilah was heading up the walk, not far ahead of the Princess when… she began trembling and fell over (Delilah, that is). Poor Delilah, a fit and right in front of all that royalty! Princess Diana reacted not unlike my mother, and immediately sent for her personal physician who travelled with her. The royal physician checked out Delilah's heart and eyes and announced that she was still alive and would probably be well again in a short while. Of course, Delilah was, and all that attention just gave her publicity as "that lovely dog that lives with the Ambassador and Ambassadress."

Delilah enjoyed a few more years in America before returning home to her English estate when Sir Oliver retired from his position as Ambassador. Delilah continued to be pampered and loved. And she had a long and happy life stretched out between her illustrious master and mistress, dreaming of puppies and neighbors, dog pounds and princesses. Truly a story of Rags to Riches!


Sunday, July 5, 2009

July 4th

Happy Fourth of July! (one day late).

Marcy planned a big 4th of July family bash with barbecue ribs and steak, corn on the cob, macaroni salad and the whole bit and then we trooped over to Marcy's Mom's house for fireworks on the street. I haven't experienced a 4th of July in probably 30 years. I am aways here before or after. In the skies over the valley great fireworks burst here and there at irregular intervals but visibility of the city was greatly cut because all the smoke.













On the friendly neighborhood street moms and grandparents sat in camping chairs while fathers and older kids set fireworks aflame and smaller children watched from the back of pick up trucks. Great fun and rowdiness all around with dogs barking, cars maneuvering around sputtering flares and neighbors shouting pleasantries to each other.




















Americans having fun and being funny!

Saturday, July 4, 2009

A post from Kiana

Ta-da!!! Kiana's table runner is finished and on her dresser! She first helped put together the baby quilt that we were working on last week and then decided that she'd like to try something for herself. Kiana picked out the colors and didn't really need too much urging to piece the whole top with just a little sideline advice. I machine quilted it for her but I think this qualifies as Kiana's first complete quilt!!

Here is a little summary of what Kiana thinks of quilt making.

My dresser top has always been very plain and white, until we found the pattern for a table runner. We immediately found this to be a great idea as it would add a little decoration and color to the otherwise very plain dresser top. I had chosen a very pretty blue, aqua, and brown fabric to use in my table runner. I tried to make it on my own but kept constantly messing up (sorry Auntie Tani) when it came to the sewing part. Altogether though I liked making it and would like to make another one next year.

Kiana


I am so pleased and proud of Kiana!

Friday, July 3, 2009

Family history

Leiya (and BrendaLou) was asking me about how my parents met and some of their background. This is just some family history here.

My parents met in Chicago not too long after WWII. My father was always sort of a rebel and he thumb nosed anyone who didn't think inter-racial marriages were appropriate. I have a feeling that my mother's parents didn't expect her to marry at all just because of the times and race issue so when my father came along they were concerned but pleased. I recall my mother telling me that HER mother commented that it was all fine and dandy for two people in love to get married regardless of what anyone else thought but that life might be difficult for any children (it wasn't).

When I was five my parents moved to Southern California and made quiet inquiries about the acceptance of Japanese Americans, but that was never a problem for them in California either. My brother and I have passed as almost any nationality possible. I've been mistaken for Filipino, Hawaiian, Thai, Eskimo, Italian. My brother is most commonly mistaken for Mexican and American Indian. My kids pass for Japanese and yet my brother's kids definitely look Caucasian and my mother has always been overjoyed to have all four grandchildren by her side with coloring so different.


There was one summer when my niece was still 4 or 5 and we were in Sam's Club. My mother and I were pushing around the shopping cart with Kiana in it and Leiya by our side. Marcy and my brother were in some other aisle when Kiana suddenly wanted Mommy and started screaming. You know how unreasonable little kids can get when they get upset... Well, Grandma and Leiya and I couldn't calm Kiana and one of the clerks came over to see what the problem was. Kiana was screaming to high heaven and the clerk figured this might be a case of child napping. None of the rest of us looked anything like Kiana and we kept pointing and explaining

"I'm her aunt. This is her Grandma!"

Apologetically the clerk carried Kiana away still screaming until Marcy could be found.

In this day and age with mixed marriages and adoptions and blended families it must be hard to figure out who belongs to whom...

My choosing to marry and live in Japan was not so a difficult a choice probably because my parents had already blazed the trail of inter-racial marriage. I remember considering the same things my mother had said HER mother had asked her to consider. All find and dandy for Tetsu and me in love but what about our future children? This is a legitimate concern in Japan where homogeneity is the norm and bullying is a serious problem for a child who shows too much individuality. But I don't think my children were ever confronted just because of their racial background. (At least I never heard about it.)

My parents were married for 25 years when one day my father walked out. That was such a blow to my mother but my father visited her occasionally for the rest of his life and took her out to lunch whenever I was in town.

One Christmas Eve, my dad called me and at the end of the phone conversation said,

"I love you. I love the kids. I guess I love Tetsu. I love your mother too."

I relayed the message to my mom that night and she laughed and said

"Well, it's a little late for that!"

The next day my father died of a heart attack in his apartment.

Sad story? Happy story? My father's eccentricities have always given my family a lot to laugh about and I think my mother chooses only to remember the happy times with him.


Thursday, July 2, 2009

Birthday

Yesterday was my birthday so I celebrated by spending the day doing exactly what I wanted to do! I guess this whole summer I've basically done just what I want to do so it has been a good month.




As always, I took a morning walk and yesterday Leiya and my niece joined me. I don't think either of them really want to go walking in the morning but they do it to keep me company. We took a harder jaunt than usual up to the hills over looking the city. Every year I come up to this point at least once because I love the scenery. If I could just get here a little bit earlier I'm sure I could catch a spectacular sunrise but I draw the line at walking the Southern California streets while it is still dark.

Marcy and I decided to cash in all the change that we found in Grandma's drawers during our cleaning. I'm surprised the bottom of the drawer didn't fall out! We could hardly lift the drawer from the dresser! Mother has just been dumping her loose change from her purse into the drawer for the last 10 years and the total was $404!!

Takumi turned up suddenly to take me on a birthday date! I am so surprised that my son remembers my birthday, comes to surprise me, and will take me to lunch! My son has become a man!



But I guess he still is a kid at heart because he wanted a Blizzard (you know, those thick ice cream things that can be turned upside down and they still won't drip) after lunch.

And in the afternoon I did some sewing. Yes, Brenda Lou, you did spot a sewing machine right off my mother's kitchen. Marcy picked out some fabric and a pattern for me to make her a table runner so I sewed that up last week and did some random machine quilting on it. My mother found this a fascinating process and spent over an hour peering at the sewing machine. She also found it absolutely hilarious that I concentrate so hard that I stick my tongue out while I quilt. Hey, I didn't know that! Thanks for the information Mom. I'm glad I added some humor to your day! (Unfortunately I stitched in a big tuck in the backing but Marcy promises not to show the back to any experienced quilters.)

And Kiana also picked out some fabric and sewed a table runner ALL BY HERSELF!!! I think I've got a budding quilter!! She wanted four-leaf clovers quilted onto it so I am still in the middle of that project.

In the evening Marcy's family came over to help me celebrate and my family gave me a Willow Blessings figure, t-shirts and gift cards to Barnes and Noble, Jamba Juice and JOANN'S!! Let's see how much sewing I can get in this last week!

And I guess my birthday gift to myself was another blog book. I am desperately behind on this endeavor (this is still the latter 6 months of 2007!) but I am very satisfied with the Blurb book making website and I guess I'll continue in this vein. This is why a few days ago I was philosophically pondering (while I went through all my mother's stuff) why we humans feel the need to record our history for posterity. Ah well.